Categories
Something Wonderful

I’m Not the Only One Who Loves Sci-fi Romances

Month after month, Google tells me that my most popular blog post is “Something Wonderful: Slow-burn Sci-fi/Fantasy Romances.” Clearly, I’m not the only person who enjoys that kind of book.

So when I fell in love with the Sirantha Jax series by Ann Aguirre, half of the team behind Bronze Gods and Silver Mirrors, I knew I had to write about it for people who, like me, enjoy sci-fi with a little romance mixed in.

It starts with Grimspace.

I have an odd relationship with Grimspace. It was on my “to read” list for a long time. I’d heard it was a good sci-fi romance, so I wanted to read it, but… too many books, too little time.

I don’t always remember books and movies unless I must (or if I revisit them). Once I got a copy of Flightplan from the library, thinking about how I’d been wanting to watch it. As the story unfolded, I realized that I had already seen it. It wasn’t very good, but I couldn’t remember the ending, so I finished it anyway.

I experienced that kind of forgetfulness with Grimspace. When I read it last year, it felt oddly familiar. At first I thought I’d read a sample chapter online. But the sense of déjà vu stayed with me through the entire book. I’d read it before and then somehow forgotten that.

So when I finished the book for the second time, I initially told myself that, even though I’d enjoyed it, it was clearly a forgettable book. I decided that I didn’t need to bother with the rest of the series.

But the characters wouldn’t let me go.

This time the book was anything but forgettable. I wanted to know what was next for Sirantha Jax and her companions. I wanted to stay with them a little longer. So I picked up the next book, Wanderlust, and from then on I gobbled the rest of the series up. (Warning: Grimspace stands alone, but books two through five end in cliffhangers.) When I reached the end of the sixth and final book, Endgame, I had a serious case of post-series depression.

One of the things that makes the characters so marvelous is that they grow and change throughout the series. Jax becomes more selfless and much less shallow. She moves from someone who sees herself solely as a star “jumper” — someone with the ability to help a ship navigate through “grimspace” — to someone who wrestles with moral issues and works to acquire more skills so that she can better contribute to her team and the world.

The physical changes she undergoes are even more significant. By the end of the series, she is quite literally no longer the person she was at the beginning. She undergoes several physical enhancements to help her with her various missions. These enhancements could have taken the series over the top if Aguirre hadn’t handled them well. But because Jax has to wrestle with questions about what she discloses to people and with the downsides to her enhancements, it’s easier to take those changes. And really, they’re more realistic than we like to believe. People are already modifying their bodies through things like cosmetic surgery, performance-enhancing drugs, and medical interventions, such as increasingly advanced pacemakers and stents. The changes that happen to Jax are a fairly realistic projection of what we might do in the future.

March, the primary love interest, is also complex. He has a strong sense of duty, which Jax both admires and hates. He is able to read minds, but that ability went uncontrolled for a long time, resulting in some emotional scars. His experiences as a mercenary also haunt him. Throughout the series, Jax and March are both drawn to and hurt by each other as a result of their experiences.

But the series is about far more than the relationship between March and Jax. Aguirre brings in a host of believable characters, including Saul, a kind scientist who is too focused on his research; Dina, a prickly mechanic; Loras, who seethes with anger over the fact that his people have been forced into submissive dependence on humans; Velith Il-Nok, an insect-like alien who is an outcast among his people; and Jael, a genetically engineered human who is understandably cautious about sharing that fact with others.

Then there’s the world-building

Aguirre doesn’t just create realistic characters, she does a great job with world-building. Over the course of the series, Jax travels to several different planets, encountering cultures that are truly alien. Loras, who is La’hengrin, is humanoid, but many of the aliens are far from human. There are long-lived Ithtorians like Velith Il-Nok, who express complex thoughts through an intricate bow called a wa. There are the frog-like Mareq, classed as primitive by humans. And there are the Morgut, spider-like creatures with sophisticated technology, who see humans in much the same way that we see cattle.

But what about the romance?

“Was I screaming?”

I don’t remember. My throat isn’t sore, although the rest of me is.

“No,” Doc says from the doorway. “At least not so the rest of us could hear.” I register March’s surprise, but Saul continues, regarding us with an inscrutable expression. “He came from the cockpit at a dead run, yanked you out of your seat. What happened, Jax?”

“Psychotic break.” I feel like I’m signing away my personal liberty by admitting as much, like maybe the Corp had a point in keeping me confined.

But Doc just nods, looking thoughtful. “Let’s get you to medical.”

It’s only then I realize that I’m still sitting on March’s lap, and his arms fall away from me with the slow, swimming reluctance of a mudsider learning to move in zero G. And I say quietly in the confines of my own head: Thank you. Not expecting to be heard. To my surprise, as I fold to my feet to follow Saul, I receive a very soft response that maybe I am not meant to hear.

I will always come for you, Jax.

Grimspace – by Ann Aguirre

While romance plays a key role in the series, it is not primary to these books. This is Sirantha Jax’s story. That story includes her relationships, but it is also very much about her adventures and development as a person. The Sirantha Jax series is solid sci-fi filled with adventure, political intrigue, and war.

That said, the romance is also an important part of every book in the series. Grimspace could definitely qualify as a slow-burn romance, but Aguirre manages to maintain a sense of romantic tension throughout the series, including slowly developing a relationship between Jax and another character that presents additional challenges to her relationship with March. Aguirre had me on a rollercoaster; there were times when she broke my heart and times when my spirits were soaring along with Jax. If you love both science fiction and romance, this series should satisfy you.

I should note, because I know that it may matter to some readers, that there are explicit sexual encounters in the series. These scenes aren’t frequent.

I’ll be reading more of Aguirre’s work.

I’d already started paying attention to Ann Aguirre after reading Bronze Gods and Silver Mirrors. Now that I’m a fan of her Sirantha Jax series, I’m certain that I’ll be reading more of her novels. In fact, I recently picked up another book set in the Sirantha Jax universe, Perdition, the first book of the Dred Chronicles. I plan to start it soon. If you decide that you, too, like her work, I recommend signing up for her email list (you can subscribe on her “free book” page). She’s also active on Facebook.

Categories
Something Wonderful

Find Little Ways to Celebrate All Year Long

Image by Terri Cnudde from Pixabay

Recently I was chatting with someone who had been having a tough week leading up to Christmas. They mentioned how they loved this time of year, which made their bad week all the more painful.

Even during a good year, holidays can be difficult. We may associate a particular holiday with unpleasant memories. We may place too many expectations on others or ourselves. Or we may be sorry when the celebration ends and we have to return to “real life.” (Does that mean the life we were living during the celebration wasn’t real?) The past year has been so upside down that everything is even more fraught with emotion.

If you love Christmas, nothing is going to replace or make up for it. But you might consider finding ways to make your everyday life so special that Christmas (or Halloween or your birthday) is just one of many special moments, rather than the high point of the year, after which everything comes crashing down.

How can we fill our year with special moments?

Celebrate minor holidays

Four years ago I wrote about how we can use minor holidays to make a difference. Consider looking at a list of holidays and picking some that move you. You can celebrate them for their own sake (have a slice of pie on Pi Day), or use them to make a difference (bake a pie and give it away). Either way, putting more holidays on your calendar gives you more to look forward to.

Take Sabbath breaks

I’ve written before about how taking weekly Sabbath breaks can restore us and give us more time to love others. If you’re feeling down because you are going back to your regular schedule after having some time off for the holidays, explore the possibility of taking one day out of every seven to rest. That gives you approximately 52 days off every year!

Arrange for little surprises throughout the year

Ordinary life can sometimes seem dull, especially right now when we are limiting activities outside our homes and using Zoom to socialize. One possible antidote to that is to find ways to surprise yourself. You know the feeling of reaching into a pocket and discovering money you’d forgotten you’d left there? We’re going for that. And while having a housemate arrange these surprises for us can be helpful, you can do this even if you live alone.

Here are some things I’ve done for myself without help from the people who live with me:

  • I’ve left chocolate and notes around the house to discover later. The key is to pick hiding places where you aren’t likely to discover your surprise right away. Just make sure that, if you’re hiding chocolate, these places aren’t so obscure that you won’t find your treats for years. For example, I picked a mug that I use occasionally but not frequently, and I put a chocolate in it. A few weeks after I hid the chocolate, I pulled out the mug and was genuinely surprised to find a mini peanut butter cup in it.
  • I’ve set reminders on my phone, telling myself to do something that I enjoy. For a few months now I’ve been picking a couple of days at random and setting reminders such as “Listen to your favorite song” or “Fix yourself a cup of hot cocoa.” I don’t overthink or make a point of remembering the dates I choose, which means I have a moment of joy when my phone tells me to take a half hour to play Pokémon Go.
  • I’ve put myself on long waiting lists for library books. I’ve done this in the past with no intention of surprising myself; I simply wanted to read a popular book and had to wait for a while. Recently, however, I did this deliberately. I used NPR’s Book Concierge to pick several books that interested me, and then I searched for the books in my library’s catalog. If a book had a lengthy waitlist, I requested it. I’m looking forward to email messages from the library letting me know each time a book is available.

Some people say (and I agree) that “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” is the perfect 2020 Christmas song. In the version that first appeared in Meet Me in St. Louis, it was about enjoying Christmas and hoping for a better future in the midst of a difficult time.

Someday soon we all will be together
If the fates allow
Until then we’ll have to muddle through somehow.

“Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” – Hugh Martin and Ralph Baine

I don’t know anyone who isn’t glad to say goodbye to 2020. The thing is, while I hope 2021 is a better year, we’re still going to have plenty of struggles. Let’s find ways to insert moments of joy in our lives to help us “muddle through” those difficult times.

A note about future blog posts: Regular readers will remember that a few weeks ago I wrote about comforting entertainment for difficult times. In my post, I reflected on a recent time when I had been feeling anxious. At the time I wrote that, I was feeling better. However, my anxiety is escalating again as I deal with a loved one’s bad news and my own concerns over a peaceful transition of presidential power this month. Over the coming weeks it may be all I can do to do my paid work and basic chores. Honoring my commitments, including my commitment to publish a blog post every other week, is important to me, but I may need to let that go for a while. If I can keep to my schedule, I will do so, but if I need to take a mental health break, I might post less often than I have promised.

Categories
Something Wonderful

What to read, watch, or do when you’re feeling fragile

Image by Enrique Meseguer from Pixabay

A few years ago, I wrote about comforting entertainment for dark times. By this year’s standards, 2017 feels positively sunny. Recently I’ve been revisiting that post, because I’ve found that things that used to bring me comfort don’t necessarily do that now.

A few weeks ago, I was feeling anxious, so much so that I found myself skipping to the ends of chapters in a book I was reading, trying to see how far I’d have to read to get to a chapter that ends on an up note. I never do that. And while I had been thinking that I might want to start watching The Great British Baking Show again, it suddenly seemed too anxiety-provoking.

What do you do when your usual escapes are failing you? Of course, what works for me might not work for you, but here are some ideas that I came up with to carry me through my anxious period.

Keep it short

If a novel is too much right now, consider something shorter. I loved Ted Chiang’s Stories of Your Life and Others; since he published another book in 2019, that could be the perfect read. Poetry works, too.

Likewise, you may not want to start a television series with a long narrative arc. When cliffhangers are too much, stick with movies or shows that tell a complete story in one sitting.

Just remember that “short” does not equal “comforting.” Now may not be the time for Edgar Allan Poe.

Keep it familiar

I’ve always been an advocate for rereading books. Anxious times are perfect for revisiting old favorites. I will never tire of Pride and Prejudice or The Hobbit, even though I know exactly how things will turn out. The same, of course, is true for what I choose to watch. Revisit The Empire Strikes Back for the umpteenth time? Why not?

Keep it light

If it’s difficult to read serious science fiction right now, maybe you can still read The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. If you were partway through Daredevil and had to stop, maybe you can get your fill of superheroes without the anxiety by watching one of the many iterations of The Tick.

Comedy is one source of light entertainment, but it’s hardly the only one. Comic books (such as Bandette), cartoons and anime (like My Neighbor Totoro), and seasonal fare (formulaic holiday movies have a huge following) can all offer a trouble-free escape. Just keep in mind that, like most of things I’m suggesting here, you can’t consider any particular category of entertainment as completely safe. Just because Heathers is considered comedy doesn’t mean it’s light-hearted. Check the reviews first.

Find a new comfort activity

If you’re not feeling up to reading or watching things these days, maybe it’s time to embrace new entertainment. During my anxious period, I put a lot of thought into making playlists for my child. I also discovered the joy of WindowSwap, which allows you to view the world through others people’s windows. You can submit a video of the view from your window, but that’s not required. You might enjoy baking, games, painting, or any other number of things that don’t require you to go along on an emotional rollercoaster ride with the hero. Don’t think of it as being weak or permanently giving up the things you used to love. You’re just taking a break to take care of yourself. Those books and shows will be waiting for you when you’re ready to go back to them.

Categories
Something Wonderful

Guilty Pleasure Movie: Funny Face

Note: This review of Funny Face contains spoilers. I wanted to dig into the movie a little in order to discuss its good points and flaws. The only way I could do that was to give away the plot. If you don’t want to spoil the movie, please watch it first. Then come back and let me know if you agree with my assessment of it.

Also, I completed this post prior to Election Day. No matter how my readers feel about the election on the day this goes live, I’m certain there will be plenty of bad news that we need to escape from. It’s 2020, after all.

The first time I watched the movie Funny Face, I fell in love with the look of it — the costumes, the sets, the imagery. It turns out that part of its look comes from contributions by photographer Richard Avedon. His photos are most notably featured in the opening title sequence, but they also appear in the brilliant number “Think Pink” and in a fashion shoot segment later in the film.

“Think Pink” – featuring Kay Thompson

On the surface, Funny Face is all about fashion and romance. Kay Thompson (yes, the author of Eloise) plays fashion magazine editor Diana Vreeland Maggie Prescott, who is looking for a different sort of model to represent Quality magazine. Fred Astaire is fashion photographer Richard Avedon Dick Avery, who finds the next “Quality woman”: Jo Stockton (Audrey Hepburn).

Avery faces two obstacles: (1) Prescott thinks Stockton has a “funny” face (Stockton thinks so, too). (2) Stockton, who is studying a form of philosophy called “empathicalism,” has no interest in modeling.

But Avery prevails — in part because the modeling shoot will be in Paris, where Stockton can meet Professor Flostre, father of empathicalism. And on the shoot, romance blossoms between Stockton and Avery. The question is: Will it last? In a fit of jealousy, Avery, who had sold Prescott on Stockton’s “character, spirit, and intelligence,” tells Stockton that Flostre is “about as interested in your intellect as I am.” Ouch.

The fashion is delicious, but the romance bothers a lot of people for good reason. The 30-year age gap between Astaire and Hepburn is off-putting (never mind that plenty of prominent men these days still marry women who are young enough to be their daughters). More important is that low blow Avery delivers during his argument with Stockton. At the time she tells him, “We’re very fortunate to have found out these things now.” Their differences are glossed over by the end of the film, which is too bad.

So while the movie is beautiful to look at, with such a problematic romance, why am I recommending it? Well, there’s another element that I love about this film: it’s almost feminist in its depiction of women. Stockton and Prescott are both strong female characters — intelligent and ambitious. Prescott dictates fashion but is never a slave to it. After she has declared pink to be the “it” color, someone asks her when she will start wearing pink. She replies that she wouldn’t be caught dead in it. As for Stockton, she’s a thinker who stands up for herself.

And though Funny Face is definitely a comedy, it also touches on a very real problem for women: sexual harassment. When Avery insulted Stockton with his assessment of Flostre’s interest in her, he was right. She wants to talk philosophy, but Flostre replies, “We’ll talk. Later. … I need you now.” She has to defend herself in order to get away.

Funny Face has its flaws, but it also gives us strong women dealing with issues that too many women still have to deal with more than 60 years later. More importantly (in my mind), it’s a fun, gorgeous escape — perfect for the days when you can’t take one more piece of bad news.

Categories
Something Wonderful

A Halloween Playlist Without “Thriller” or “Monster Mash”

Nothing says "Halloween" quite like this picture of a jack o'lantern.
Image by Andreas Lischka from Pixabay

I’ve always loved Halloween, but over the years it has become one of my favorite holidays. I suspect that’s because it’s so low-pressure. Many holidays require lots of work from adults, often women. If you’re married, you may have to negotiate where, with whom, and how you celebrate. But Halloween is easy… at least, it is for my family. Before COVID-19, I usually only had to buy fair-trade chocolate ahead of time and answer the door a few times on October 31. (Our neighborhood doesn’t get many trick-or-treaters.) That gives me plenty of time to just kick back and enjoy the season.

One way I celebrate is by listening to my Halloween playlist. I started pulling it together after I got tired of listening to an Internet-based Halloween station that played the same songs over and over. I enjoy Halloween classics like “Thriller” and “Monster Mash,” but I also like variety. My actual playlist includes the usual suspects, such as “This is Halloween,” “Werewolves of London,” and “Danse Macabre.” But in the playlist below, I’ll give you some of the more unusual songs I like to listen to as Halloween approaches. I’m sure some song choices will seem obvious to you, but I’m also confident that this list will inspire some new additions to your own playlist.

Music From Soundtracks

Cat People (Putting Out Fire) – David Bowie

It’s been decades since I watched Cat People, but I remember it fondly as a slightly cheesy, not-too-scary horror film. This is the title track, which has appeared in several other movies, most recently Atomic Blonde.

Coraline End Credits – Bruno Coulais

Based on Neil Gaiman’s book of the same name, Coraline is a perfect pick for family-friendly Halloween viewing. (Note: Like adults, different kids have different tolerance levels for scary films. Please read some reviews and check out some clips before you watch it with your little ones.)

Cry Little Sister (Theme From “Lost Boys”) – Gerard McMann

Last year I mentioned The Lost Boys as one of two Halloween movies that are “spooky but not too scary.” I love this song from the opening credits.

The Cyberman – Murray Gold

In a debate over the most frightening monsters from Doctor Who, I would pick the Weeping Angels. But the Cybermen would also rank high on my list, and they have better music.

Edward Scissorhands Introduction (Titles) – Danny Elfman

Even though Edward Scissorhands takes place around Christmas, the fact that it’s a Tim Burton film makes it a natural fit for Halloween. This piece sounds more magical than spooky, but not all Halloween songs need to be scary. Don’t believe me? Think of “Hedwig’s Theme” from the Harry Potter series.

The Game Is On – David Arnold and Michael Price

I read mysteries year-round, but they feel especially appropriate as Halloween approaches. If you’ve watched Sherlock, wouldn’t you agree that music from its soundtrack belongs on this playlist?

Ghostbusters Main Title Theme – Elmer Bernstein

Sure, Ray Parker Jr.’s “Ghostbusters” is a Halloween classic. The actual theme for the movie, written by the great Elmer Bernstein, is also excellent.

Great Pumpkin Waltz – Vince Guaraldi

Perhaps because it’s found on the album A Charlie Brown Christmas, this Halloween song gets overlooked too often. I always play “Great Pumpkin Waltz” in October. In November I listen to another song from the album, “Thanksgiving Theme.”

Grim Grinning Ghosts – Buddy Baker

Does music from a theme park ride count as a soundtrack? I think so.

By the way, if you want to listen to a story Disney made up to go along with the attraction, featuring Ron Howard as one of two teenaged protagonists, check out The Story and Song From the Haunted Mansion.

Paul’s Theme (Jogging Chase) – Giorgio Moroder

Yes, there really are two songs from the Cat People soundtrack on my Halloween playlist.

Blade Runner End Titles – Vangelis

I deliberately veered from alphabetical order here, because you’re more likely to follow my odd musical reasoning for including this song if you listen to it immediately after “Paul’s Theme (Jogging Chase).” I don’t think of Blade Runner as a Halloween movie, but the mood of the end titles song seems to fit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAwo7DPUFUM&ab_channel=VioLenTPeN

Stranger Things Title Sequence – Kyle Dixon and Michael Stein

As a member of Generation X, I am required to include this on my playlist.

Trust in Me – Scarlett Johansson (composers: Robert and Richard Sherman)

Sterling Holloway is a somewhat comedic Kaa, but Scarlett Johansson’s Kaa is seductive and evil.

Popular Music

Dead Man’s Party – Oingo Boingo

This isn’t entirely ignored on popular Halloween playlists, but it’s vastly underplayed. That said, if this song was as ubiquitous as “Monster Mash” at this time of year, maybe I wouldn’t love it so much. (For those who don’t know, this is the second Danny Elfman song on this list. In addition to being a film composer, he used to be a member of Oingo Boingo.)

Don’t Pay the Ferryman – Chris de Burgh

Chris de Burgh is best known for his ballad, “The Lady in Red,” which still pops up on oldies stations. In my opinion, this song is far better.

Ghost – Mystery Skulls

Most of the songs on this list don’t have a video to go with them. This is an exception. You must watch this dark homage to Scooby Doo. It’s the first in a series of animated videos for Mystery Skulls.

Superstition – Stevie Wonder

If I can fit a Stevie Wonder song into a playlist, I will. Superstition, Halloween… it works.

With Her Head Tucked Underneath Her Arm – Water City Music Tower Voices

This old song, with lyrics by R.P. Weston and Bert Lee and music by Harris Weston, has been recorded many times, so I categorized it under “popular.” The relatively new recording below is so cute that I had to include this version on the playlist. This is another video you really should watch.

Classical Music

Cinderella’s Departure for the Ball – Sergei Prokofiev

Are you scratching your head and wondering just why I included this on a Halloween playlist? Well, just listen. Doesn’t it sound a little… sinister?

Ghosts’ High Noon – W.S. Gilbert and Arthur Sullivan

With ghosts and a curse, Ruddigore is the spookiest of all of Gilbert and Sullivan’s operas. This version of “Ghosts’ High Noon” from the opera comes complete with a ghost puppet.

The Gnome – Modest Mussorgsky

Classical stations often play Mussorgsky’s “Night on Bald Mountain” around Halloween, and with good reason. But this is one of two songs from Pictures at an Exhibition that I think also fit the Halloween mood. According to Wikipedia the “picture” this represents is of a nutcracker, but I always imagine the gnome as a malevolent little fellow.

The Hut on Fowl’s Legs – Modest Mussorgsky

This is the obvious choice for a Halloween song from Pictures at an Exhibition. On a personal note, I will always associate the witch Baba Yaga with my mom. When I was a kid, I used to get Jack and Jill magazine. They often included a Baba Yaga story in their October issue, and whenever they did, my mom would exclaim, “I love Baba Yaga stories!” This one’s for you, Mom.

Infernal Dance – Igor Stravinsky

Hmmm… the classical music on this list is mostly Russian. What do my music-loving readers think: Are Russian composers the best at scary music?

Categories
Something Wonderful

Berthe and Edma Morisot: A True Story About Women’s Choices

Berthe Morisot's Summer's Day, a painting in the public domain
Summer’s Day by Berthe Morisot

When I wrote my first post on a female artist, Artemisia Gentileschi, I knew I would write more like it. I even made a list of women I wanted to cover. Among them was Berthe Morisot, but I kept putting off writing about her. I felt like I had little to say beyond: “Here’s another female artist you might not know about.”

Julian Barnes’ piece about her in the September 12, 2019, issue of The London Review of Books showed me how to approach her work. He gave me my thesis by opening with this statement:

Many artists live with a shadow version of themselves: an awareness of how things might have been if they had done this and not that, if life had made this choice for them rather than that. The road not taken remains at the back of the mind. For some their shadow is an external presence, for others an inner haunting. Few can have experienced it more precisely, with more emotional complexity, than Berthe Morisot.

“The Necessary Talent,” Julian Barnes

While “The Necessary Talent” is the most informative piece I’ve read about her, I think Barnes failed to prove his statement. Most of us, artists or not, live with a shadow version of ourselves. I’m sure that Berthe questioned some of her choices. But I think it was her sister Edma — the artist who might have been — who was particularly haunted by her shadow self. And, perhaps, Edma’s shadow self haunted Berthe, too.

Two talented sisters

Berthe was one of three sisters, all of whom pursued painting, but one of whom, Yves, never went far. Edma, however, was quite talented, perhaps more so than Berthe. But Edma married and, as so many married women did, set her work aside.

Edma Morisot's portrait of her sister Berthe
Berthe Morisot by Edma Morisot

Here’s where Barnes’ argument falls apart: Berthe continued to paint, but she, too, eventually married and had a child. Surely Berthe must have engaged in the very human reflection on how her life might have turned out if she had made different choices, but as far as her art went, Berthe did not have to sacrifice marriage and motherhood to continue her career. I would guess she was more likely to have wrestled with questions such as “What would life had been like if Edma and I had been able to continue painting together? If she’d been able to continue to develop her work, would I be living in her shadow now?”

“I know I am worth as much as they”

That doesn’t mean that Berthe didn’t struggle with her choice, as a woman, to pursue a career in art. Although her fellow Impressionists recognized her talent — Degas asked for her contribution to the First Impressionist Exhibition — she still faced discrimination based on her gender. She once wrote, “I don’t think there has ever been a man who treated a woman as an equal, and that’s all I would have asked, for I know I am worth as much as they.” Of her hundreds of paintings, she sold fewer than 50. This despite the fact that one art critic said that Berthe was the only true Impressionist at the Third Impressionist Exhibition.

La Psyche by Berthe Morisot
The Psyche Mirror by Berthe Morisot

Despite her lack of success relative to her male peers, we are fortunate to have Berthe’s work, which can be found in many museums around the world (see the list of her works at the end of this Wikipedia article). But the story of Berthe and Edma gives us plenty to ponder. How many women have abandoned a promising career because they had to choose between pursuing their talent or marrying and having children? How many women today still must wrestle with their choices, perhaps holding back their potential because of the assumption that they would do most of the housework and child-raising, whether or not they worked outside the home?

I encourage you to search out more of Berthe’s work and think about what other beautiful paintings we might have today had Edma also chosen to continue to develop her artistic talent.

Girl With a Greyhound by Berthe Morisot
Girl With a Greyhound by Berthe Morisot
Categories
Something Wonderful

Looking for Something to Read? Try This Underappreciated Book.

Till We Have Faces is C.S. Lewis' retelling of the Eros and Psyche myth.
Eros and Psyche

The Chronicles of Narnia are popular for a reason, but…

In writing this, I’m not knocking C.S. Lewis’ most popular fiction. I love the Chronicles of Narnia. The Lion, the Witch, and the Wardrobe is one of the few books to influence my dreams; I will never forget dreaming that I stepped through the wardrobe and met Aslan.

Then there’s the Space Trilogy… especially Perelandra. I love the scene in which the Un-man taunts Ransom by repeating his name, and then, when Ransom responds, the Un-man replies, “Nothing.” It’s a child’s game, yet somehow chilling.

And while it has been a long time since I’ve read The Great Divorce, I cannot forget Lewis’ depiction of Hell as a gloomy place where people keep moving further away from each other because they cannot bear each other, while Heaven is so solid that, when tourists from Hell arrive, the blades of grass cut their feet.

But I think that Lewis’ best work of fiction may be his least known.

Till We Have Faces is in a class by itself.

Lewis’ last novel, Till We Have Faces is his retelling of the myth of Eros (or Cupid) and Psyche, which had fascinated him since his youth. Instead of choosing Psyche or Eros to tell the story, he picked Psyche’s oldest sister, whom he named Orual.

From the outset, the story sounds nothing like what I usually think of as C.S. Lewis:

I am old now and have not much to fear from the anger of the gods. I have no husband nor child, nor hardly a friend, through whom they can hurt me. My body, this lean carrion that still has to be washed and fed and have clothes hung about it daily with so many changes, they may kill as soon as they please. The succession is provided for. My crown passes to my nephew.

Orual: Lewis’ most developed character?

Unlike the sisters in the original myth, Orual is a sympathetic character. You understand why she encourages Psyche to look upon her husband despite his command. Poor Orual is not beautiful and, often neglected and sometimes abused by her father, is lonely much of the time. She loves Psyche as much as she can love anyone — an imperfect love, to be sure, but nonetheless a love of a sort. It’s easy to imagine yourself as Orual, embittered against gods who are largely silent and who seem capricious and cruel. Job-like, she asks, How could the gods take away the person I loved the most? Why did they not make it clear to me that her husband was a god and not something monstrous? How dare they then punish me for guessing wrongly by punishing Psyche?

Orual is not Lewis’ first strong female character. Tinidril, the Green Lady in Perelandra, has a great deal of strength in her innocence. There are several strong female characters in the Chronicles of Narnia, chief among them Lucy. But in Orual, Lewis created a woman who is strong, complex, and, because of her complexity, very real. People say that Joy Davidman helped Lewis alter his perspective on women, and when I read Till We Have Faces, I can believe it. Orual has a depth that none of his other female characters reached. In fact, I would argue she feels more real than any of his characters, male or female.

Nearly halfway through the book, Orual travels with Bardia, captain of the guards, to find and bury Psyche’s remains after she is given to the god of the Grey Mountain. They must spend the night on the mountain, where it is bitterly cold, so Bardia suggests they lie close, “back to back, the way men do in the wars.” Lewis writes:

I said yes to that, and indeed no woman in the world has so little reason as I to be chary in such matters. Yet it surprised me that he should have said it; for I did not yet know that, if you are ugly enough, all men (unless they hate you deeply) soon give up thinking of you as a woman at all.

I don’t recall anything else quite like that — so bitter, so real — from any other character in Lewis’ fiction.

Faith meets mythology

Lewis brought his faith rather overtly into all of his fiction. That’s just as true for Till We Have Faces as it is for his other books, but here it seems more subtle and nuanced. Part of that may be because he was working with an existing myth. The god of the Grey Mountain (Eros) is the son of Ungit, a strange, dark goddess who is the counterpart to Aphrodite in Glome, Orual’s birthplace. In her old age, Orual dreams that her father drags her to a mirror and asks her, “Who is Ungit?”

“I am Ungit,” she replies, just before she wakes. While she realizes that she was dreaming, Orual also believes that the dream has shown her the truth.

It was I who was Ungit. That ruinous face was mine. I was that… all-devouring womblike, yet barren, thing. Glome was a web—I the swollen spider, squat at its center, gorged with men’s stolen lives.”

A few pages later, she muses: “I was Ungit. What did it mean? Do the gods flow in and out of us as they flow in and out of each other?”

The god of the Grey Mountain is clearly a Christ figure, but with Ungit, Lewis introduces such complexity that we cannot read Till We Have Faces as a straightforward allegory. There are certainly allegorical elements, but the story is far more than that. It’s something that must be pondered and returned to, and that is part of what makes it so good.

Not a beach read, but a good read.

Till We Have Faces is a beautiful, powerful book, but I don’t recommend it for a relaxing read. While it is nowhere near as taxing as James Joyce’s Ulysses nor is it troubling like Margaret Atwood’s A Handmaid’s Tale, it is not lightweight. Read it when you are prepared for something thoughtful. But do read it if you haven’t already.

Categories
Something Wonderful

Want to Be Inspired? Check Out Alight.

These Cambodian medics were trained by the American Refugee Committee (now Alight) not long after it was founded. (Public domain photo by Cmacauley, Wikimedia Commons)

When I wrote about Preemptive Love, I promised it was the first of a series of posts about nonprofit organizations.

It’s about time I write another post for that promised series.

This time I’d like to introduce you to Alight, formerly known as the American Refugee Committee. Alight was on my radar before its name change, but when the 2019 rebrand happened, I sat up and took notice. Given my professional background, I confess I have a hard time untangling my feelings about the rebranding from my feelings about Alight’s work. I’ll go into the rebranding at the end of this post for readers who, like me, get a little nerdy over such things.

What is Alight?

In the organization’s words, Alight builds “a meaningful life for and with the displaced. Not simply basic needs, but a life filled with joy, dignity, connection, and purpose.”

Alight is made up of several smaller organizations:

  • Kuja Kuja. Kuja Kuja recognizes that humanitarian organizations need to focus on the people they serve, not on big donors. As such, it considers refugees as its customers, asking them two questions: Were you happy with today’s service? Any ideas on how we can do better?
  • Asili. Focused on providing healthcare and other humanitarian services in the Democratic Republic of Congo, Asili rejects the notion that its customers should receive services that just meet the minimum quality standards. Instead, it seeks to meet the highest industry standards through its clinics, its water system, and its agricultural cooperatives.
  • Questscope. Questscope provides “social, educational, and entrepreneurial opportunities for marginalized youth” in places like a Syrian refugee camp in Jordan. Some of its services include a mentoring program and alternative educational opportunities.
  • Changemakers 365. Changemakers 365 focuses on creating change for no more than $500 per day. This might mean providing bedding for refugees at the request of someone who works in a reception center, or setting up touch-free handwashing stations in response to COVID-19.
  • I Am A Star. This award-winning program helps rebuild Somalia through assistance provided to returning refugees and existing communities.
  • ORAM (Organization for Refuge, Asylum & Migration). This organization focuses on something I had never thought of before reading about their work in some of Alight’s literature: “advocating for sexual and gender minority asylum seekers and refugees fleeing persecution and violence.”

What makes Alight special?

There are a few things I particularly love about Alight.

  • Alight works with its “customers” to create programs that serve their needs. While an increasing number of humanitarian organizations are letting those they serve help guide their work, there are still far too many organizations that embrace the “savior” role, in which the organization swoops in with ideas but doesn’t consult with the people it wants to help. A customer-centered approach acknowledges that nonprofits need to listen to the people they are serving as they express their needs and share their ideas for solutions. Do they really need for you to ship in food for hungry people, or would they prefer that you buy the food you’re distributing from local farmers?
  • Alight emphasizes joy over “poverty porn.” “Poverty porn” focuses on suffering — think pictures of naked children who are clearly starving. We feel so good helping those poor children. But while poverty does cause suffering, that’s only part of the picture, and when we focus solely on suffering, we can develop an unhealthy perspective on poverty and how we fit into the picture. Alight focuses on joy and optimism as it works alongside the people it serves.
  • Alight involves supporters in all sorts of interesting ways. Before the pandemic, Alight invited people to tour its Minneapolis facilities and to attend monthly educational sessions and volunteer events. I haven’t seen many organizations that have worked so hard to provide accessible ways for supporters to do more than just write a check. I hope they will take this up again once it is safe to do so.

How you can participate in their work

  • Obviously, you can donate to support their work, whether you donate regularly, make a one-time gift, or arrange for some other donation, such as a gift of stock.
  • You can follow their work. During the pandemic, their most active channels of communication seem to be Facebook, Instagram and Twitter, but they also have a presence on YouTube and LinkedIn, and their website contains a wealth of information. You can sign up to receive email from them (check out the right-hand column on their home page), but I haven’t received anything from them in a while. Of course, I have this habit of unsubscribing from email lists when I feel like too much is pouring into my inbox, so that could be the problem.
  • As I mentioned earlier, they like to involve supporters in their work, offering tours of their headquarters, events, and volunteer opportunities. Keep an eye on their site for future opportunities.

About that rebranding…

When the American Refugee Committee first announced they were changing their name to Alight, I thought they were nuts. “American Refugee Committee” clearly says something about their work (“We work with the displaced”). “Alight” could mean anything. And they owned American Refugee Committee online. Google those three words, and they come up. It’s a lot more difficult to dominate search engines with the name Alight.

But Alight had a good reason for changing their name: their customers. The people they serve don’t want the focus to be on their status as refugees. The new name refers to two meanings of the word “alight” — shining brightly and landing gently.

When they rolled out the new brand, I was impressed. Everything — from the new name to the design to the messaging — works together to portray an organization that is vibrant, optimistic, customer-centered, and forward-thinking. I don’t think I’ve ever noticed a branding campaign that has moved me as much as this has. And while they may not own the top slot on the search engines, when I search for “Alight,” they are coming up on the first page of results.

Well done, Alight.

Categories
Something Wonderful

How to Rescue Summer: The Sequel

My semication included a trip to a local nature center.

A few weeks ago, I took my own advice and faked a vacation of sorts. I called it a “semication,” because currently I have no paid vacation time. I could have rearranged my work schedule to take a week off, but I felt like I would be perfectly satisfied working for four hours and then relaxing. And I was right.

During the last few days of my vacation, I decided to share my experience on Facebook. I was surprised by the response. A number of the people who commented said they felt inspired.

So I decided to share my story here. I won’t bore you with the details of every day. I’ll just go into depth on one day and give you highlights from the others. Of course, nothing I write here is meant to be prescriptive. You might not enjoy my vacation. Instead, I hope to inspire you to think of ways you can “seize the summer.” It’s not too late.

How I made work fun during my semication

Honestly, it helps that I enjoy my job. Working half-days really wasn’t a drag. But I also put extra fun into work by listening to music and sitting outside when the weather permitted. There’s no reason not do those things more frequently, so I’ve been trying to add them to my work days now.

How I avoided chores and errands during my semication

Staycations and I have never gotten along well. There’s always work to be done at home, and I have a hard time ignoring it. I had to push myself to avoid chores during my semication.

While I didn’t avoid every scrap of housework, I did a pretty good job. Here’s how I managed:

  • I planned ahead. I’ve written before about the value of spontaneity during vacations, but if there’s ever a time to plan carefully, it’s when you’re getting ready for a staycation. If you have a hard time not doing housework while at home, you must have a plan. What will you eat? Will you use paper plates to save on washing dishes? What do you need to have on hand? A plan is also useful so that at the end of your vacation you don’t say, “Wait! Where did the time go?”
  • I started my semication on a Sunday, giving myself all day Saturday to get ready.
  • I figured out what had to be done so that I could relax during my hours off. Then I focused my attention on those things. This meant getting groceries, cleaning the kitchen and bathroom, changing the sheets, and doing laundry.

One theme for my semication? Try seven!

My vacation lasted eight days, Sunday through Sunday. Seven of those days had a theme. Most days were driven by nostalgia — either for something from my past, such as visits to my grandparents in New Mexico, or something that I normally do during the summer, such as attending CONvergence. I also picked a couple of general summer themes to round out the week. My activities, food, even the clothes I wore and the music I listened to were shaped by the day’s theme.

I tried to match the theme for each day to the weather forecast, but it was a hot week with a couple of days of predicted rain, and most of my themes involved at least some time outdoors. This caught up with me toward the end of the vacation.

My Minnesota State Fair

Monday was all about the Minnesota State Fair.

Sweet Martha's cookies and "all you can drink" milk

What I ate:
It’s the fair, so food is front and center, right?

I started the day with a Peg Muffin (fried egg, sausage, tomato, and cheese on an English muffin) like they serve at The Peg, the fair’s only full-service restaurant. Lunch was the sort of sandwich I might get from The Lunch Box. (I chose that mostly because it was simple.) Afterwards I baked some Sweet Martha’s Cookies, which I accompanied with a glass of milk from the All-You-Can-Drink Milk Stand in my fridge. Dinner was Sara’s Tipsy Pies with chocolate custard for dessert.

What I wore:
I have a couple of State Fair Sins t-shirts from a campaign I created for the University of St. Thomas a few years ago, so I wore one of those.

What I listened to:
Singer-songwriter Ann Reed wrote a few songs at the State Fair, which were compiled from audience suggestions at the Minnesota Public Radio booth. I considered those required listening for the day.

What I did:
There’s a lot of the state fair that you just can’t replicate, but I did my best. I visited the Pet Pavilion (translation: I gave my dog some extra attention, including a massage). I also visited the DNR Booth, which for me meant taking a hike through a nature center.

The fun surprise:
My kid added a detail I hadn’t thought about when I planned my day. It got pretty windy during the evening, so she summoned me outside and then blew bubbles into the wind — just like the bubble blowers at the souvenir stands scattered around the fairground.

CONvergence

I planned to indulge my geeky side in a tribute to CONvergence on the first rainy day of my vacation, since none of my planned activities involved being outdoors. Instead, I reread a favorite sci-fi book, watched Mystery Science Theater 3000, and ended my day with the YogaQuest Con Cool Down.

Unfortunately, I made the mistake of cramming much of the junk food I consume over a four-day convention into one day. Since we often find ourselves at Starbucks one morning during the con, I got one of their egg sandwiches for breakfast. That was fine, but then I had the sort of lunch one might put together in the consuite: seasoned rice and bread with peanut butter. In honor of another con tradition, I got hamburgers and treats from Dairy Queen for dinner. Add to that a specialty hot chocolate along the lines of what I might get from COF2E2 and toast with nutella and cinnamon sugar à la House of Toast, combined with mostly sitting around all day, and I felt sort of crummy by bedtime, even though I did have fun.

Fortunately, the next day was…

Spa Day

I couldn’t have asked for a better follow-up to my celebration of CONvergence. Spa Day was filled with healthy food, outdoor yoga, a walk, a nap, a trip to the farmers market, relaxing music, and an at-home facial. It was a perfect reset midway through my semication.

Cape May, New Jersey

When I was growing up, my family went to Cape May, New Jersey, every summer, at least for a long weekend. It’s difficult to bring the spirit of a Victorian beach town to the upper Midwest in the middle of a pandemic, even if we have lots of shoreline, but I did my best. I read a trashy novel, spent some time near water (though not water one could mistake for the ocean), wore a vintage t-shirt from Cape May, listened to what I think of as beach music, created a Cape May Pinterest board, had fried shrimp for dinner, and indulged in some fudge from the Original Fudge Kitchen, one of the places I remember from my childhood trips to the beach.

Visiting My Grandparents in New Mexico

Friday was dedicated to memories of visits to my New Mexico grandparents. I fixed an enchilada casserole recipe that my grandmother had given me years ago and also sauteed some zucchini and onions like she used to. I sent someone a postcard I still had from a past trip to New Mexico, read some Tony Hillerman, and colored a page from Wildlife of Cactus and Canyon Country. And, in honor of my grandpa’s 8-track tape of Tchaikovsky that I listened to over and over again during one trip, I listened to Tchaikovsky while I worked. I have no doubt that my sister and cousins would put together an entirely different day based on their own memories of visiting my grandparents.

Backyard Camping

I had hoped to go backyard camping over the weekend, but the weather didn’t cooperate. I still managed to do a couple of my planned activities: I got a walk in with my mom in the morning before it got too hot, and I fixed Frito pies (aka walking tacos) for dinner. Otherwise I baked and lazed around and had a wonderful day, even if it didn’t go as planned.

Summer in Alexandria, Virginia

My final day celebrated summers in Alexandria, Virginia, when I was a child and teenager. I listened to jazz, played “no rules” badminton in the backyard with my kid (a favorite game with my sister), fixed carrots sticks and deviled eggs like my mom makes to go along with a simple sandwich supper, and ended the weekend with Spider-Man: Into the Spider-Verse, a movie that has nothing to do with summers in Alexandria.

What I took away from my semication

  • As I mentioned above, there’s no reason why I can’t add fun to my work days through little things like listening to music or sitting in pleasant surroundings.
  • While I love travel, I can have a wonderful time vacationing at home if I plan ahead.
  • I can have a restful vacation without taking full days off. That said, I think the key was that I sandwiched a full week of half-days between three chore-free weekend days.
  • Of course a “State Fair” themed day or a “Cape May” themed day can’t capture the real thing. I didn’t expect them to. But celebrating the things I love about certain places or memories or times of year can be enjoyable in and of itself.
  • I had such a good time, I want to take more semications in the future! Of course I will jump at the chance to travel again someday, but for now, semications at home are a great way to relax and recharge.
Categories
Something Wonderful

Anime for Odd People: Nichijou

Would your friends and family use any of the following words to describe you: weird, quirky, wacky, zany, goofy, odd, kooky, eccentric? Are you not above watching an animated show?

It’s time to check out Nichijou, or My Ordinary Life.

I’ve watched (and recommended) comedy anime before. But Nichijou is unlike anything else that I’ve seen. Each 24-minute episode is made up of a series of shorter stories about recurring characters, including school-age friends Yuuko, Mio, and Mai, and an eight-year-old scientist, Hakase (literally “Professor”), who lives with her robot creation, Nano. A few stories continue from episode to episode, but overall each episode can stand alone.

Here are just a few of the things that make Nichijou so delightfully odd…

Mai

Yuuko, Mio, and Mai all have their quirks, but Mai is over-the-top quirky. She has a strange, slightly evil sense of humor and delivers her pranks, many of which are directed at poor Yuuko, with a completely deadpan expression.

This isn’t one of my favorite clips featuring Mai, and I would prefer to share a version in Japanese with subtitles, but it gets the point across:

Nano and Hakase

As perhaps the most serious character in the show, Nano wants to be thought of as human, a desire that Hakase willfully disregards. Hakase and Nano have an odd relationship: Hakase is brilliant, but she acts like the eight-year-old she is, leaving Nano to play the role of parent to her creator. Hakase constantly wheedles Nano for sweets and at one point even modifies her to dispense desserts. She also lacks empathy for Nano’s desire to hide her robot identity. The Nano-Hakase segments have a tinge of sadness not present in the rest of the anime, giving the show a depth it would otherwise lack.

Koujirou Sasahara

One of the minor characters, Koujirou Sasahara is a classmate to Yuuko and her friends. The child of farmers, he has styled himself as an aristocrat. He adds a jabot to his school uniform, rides a goat to school, and is often attended by a butler. Another classmate, Misato Tachibana, has a crush on him, which she covers by shooting him with heavy weapons. This is a part of the anime that may not go over well with an American audience — although these “shootings” are merely cartoon violence, we’ve had so many school shootings that I found myself disturbed whenever Misato pulled a gun out of nowhere.

You’ll see glimpses of Koujirou and Misato in the intro to the show.

Buddy

Buddy is a dog that melts my heart. When Yuuko is upset about something, he often appears to place a paw on her for comfort. It gets me every time.

The Bizarre Interludes Between the Main Segments

Each episode of Nichijou is made up of segments featuring recurring characters, but in between those are unrelated interludes. In one recurring interlude, two men whose heads are encased in daifuku turn a jump rope for various characters.

Another segment, “Short Thoughts,” ranges from serious, relatable observations…

… to completely random statements.

Finally, there’s “Helvetica Standard,” short stories that are in a different style from the rest of the anime.

I’ve only glossed the surface of the weirdness that is Nichijou. But where I just saw bizarre humor that appealed to me, one scholarly work saw much more. While I was doing research for this post, I ran across an excerpt from Kyoto Animation: A Critical Study and Filmography. The book devotes several pages to Nichijou, arguing that “the orchestration of the show’s dramatic fragments appears to be governed by a pervasive sense of randomness whose ultimate objective is to throw into relief–in a jovial yet uncompromising fashion–the fundamental absurdity of human life.” So if you won’t watch this anime because I’m recommending it, do it to see if you agree that it expresses an absurdist philosophy.

If you’re ready to watch, you can currently find Nichijou on Funimation. You’ll need a subscription to watch the whole thing, but you can watch the first few episodes for free.